Saturday, March 19, 2011

Support System

I took a huge risk when I came out at work. It's completely legal to fire me over something that is not related to my work performance, yet I chose to take that chance. I live a very "out" life everywhere else, and got sick and tired of hiding something that I am not ashamed of. Where is this coming from you are wondering?
Last night I was hanging out with a co-worker/friend last night and we were talking about how close the wedding is, my pre-wedding jitters (NO. I am not getting cold feet, but I will explain my jitters in a future post), the shower they just threw me at school, etc. She mentioned again how several people were talking sh*t, asking her questions and generally fueling the rumor mill. Here is a snippet of our conversation:

Me: Wait. What are they asking you?
Co-worker: Just the same old stuff, 'What-what-what do you know about her?' I tell them I know a lot. Then they asked, 'Well, what do you know about her wedding?' Again I told them, 'A lot. She's my friend and I actually talk with her, not about her. Go ask her yourself if you have questions.'
Me: (laughing) True. You did Facebook stalk me for a while.
Co-worker: That's only because I love you. I tell them one-if they want to know something go ask you and you will tell them, two-stop spreading rumors that have no backing, and three-it's really none of their business and if they don't have the balls to say something to your face they need to shut up.
Me: You did not!
C0-worker: I did, but that's NOTHING. While this was going on (Co-worker on my grade level) heard and came in pissed about them talking sh*t about you again. She slammed the door shut behind her, and got in their faces. She told them if she heard one more mean or negative thing said about you that she would personally make their life hell. Girl, you don't even know how mad she was, she was ready to bust some people up.
Me: No. Way.
Co-worker: Oh yeah, I stood in the back while she gave them a lecture about she thought she had already made herself clear about keeping their opinions to themselves. How you are one of the nicest people here, always help everyone, and are a better person than any of their sorry asses who talk sh*t about people behind their backs because they have nothing interesting going on in their own lives.
Me: Well thank you for defending me. Seriously.
Co-worker: Girl we got your back. Nobody is talkin' shi*t about our friend. Especially people who don't know anything about anything.

She still wouldn't tell me what was said, but I have a pretty good idea based on who was involved. It's good to know that I'm supported at work by some pretty amazing people.


NewlyDyke said...

It's surprising when we open up to see how people are actually willing to respect and even protect us! I'm glad you have that great support system! And the others... they're just curious I guess... unless they are saying negative things.

Erin said...

I'm so glad you have such a wonderful support system!! That's amazing!!

Erin said...

p.s. love the new layout!

The Surprise Dyke said...

NewlyDyke-I'm very lucky at my job that several co-workers are so awesome. The others...VERY negative/hateful things. They've been put in their place by others, if it continues I will be forced to jump in...they don't want that to happen

The Surprise Dyke said...

Erin-Thanks and Thanks! I felt it was time for a change :-)

LilliGirl said...

Hi fives to your awesome posse! :)

...and boogers on the desk of those who stir the pot. ;)

The Surprise Dyke said...

LilliGirl-two words-You. Rock.