Wednesday, July 9, 2008

A little bit of my rambling

Ok, so the title may seem random, but random pretty much describes me!  I may appear to be a mix of contradictions and confusions to many people, but I'm not as complicated as they make me out to be.  My friends consider me to be a "surprise dyke" because no one had a clue I was gay until I told them.  I didn't fit the stereotype picture in their mind of what a gay woman looks or acts like (yet who do they call to fix their sink and lights?)  and "pass for straight" on a daily basis.  (Stepping on my soapbox for my ramble) Let's talk for a minute about the phrases "pass for straight" and "acting straight."  What exactly does "acting straight" mean?  I hate these categories of where someone needs to fit simply to make others comfortable and happy.  In the words of one of my favorite movies, Peoples Is Peoples.  (That's right peoples, The Muppets Take know you love it too!)  It doesn't bother me that people can't tell I'm gay, but what does bother me is the phrases.  Like I'm on some covert operation to act like something different than who I am thinking, "OOO, who can I trick today!".  Simply because I blow-dry and straighten my hair, wear makeup, and don't have a super short haircut doesn't make me any less gay than the dyke stereotypes.


SheA said...

so uh- pretty mch the only STRAIGHT thing about you is your hair.....*giggles to self*

The Surprise Dyke said...

And even that need a flat iron!

Taylor said...

That's totally me! People don't know that I'm gay either until I tell them. People tell me all the time that I don't fit the stereotypes. I personally hate stereotypes because they oppress individuality. I'm just me.
I remembered reading this awhile back when I discovered your blog and I had to comment.